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boundary or disappearance?
how to tell the difference between clarity + ghosting
this isn’t therapy.
it’s a reckoning.
in episode 11, author introduces a major shift in the podcast:
each episode now centers around one central question.
the question for this episode:
how do you know when you’re setting a boundary versus quietly disappearing (ghosting)?
the distinction is simple—and uncomfortable.
if there is resolution, it’s a boundary.
if there isn’t, it’s ghosting.
this episode explores:
— how avoidance often disguises itself as self-protection
— why ghosting causes harm through absence, not honesty
— how male conflict avoidance sabotages intimacy
— why clarity is painful, but necessary
— personal accountability around past ghosting behavior
the conversation is grounded in the recent clarity series of musings:
m.68 — the pause before he disappears
m.69 — clarity is the thing both sides are avoiding
m.70 — clarity is terrifying. avoidance is worse.
m.71 — ghosting isn’t a boundary
m.72 — avoidance is the intimacy killer
m.73 — closing the loop (dropping this week)
housekeeping + updates
— podcast format update:
each episode now includes
• housekeeping
• top 5 social posts of the week
• one central question
• current + upcoming musings tied directly to that question
— threads growth:
the community has surpassed 1,100 followers, with text-only posts reaching thousands organically
— inner circle update:
a new capped inner circle tier is coming, including
• quarterly one-on-one sessions
• full access to all musings + red room wireframes
• early access to future workshops + events
space is intentionally limited
top 5 social posts (threads)
each post reflects the same signal from different angles:
safety always comes before intimacy.
what’s next
a new multi-part series—requested directly by women—will examine male-driven control + manipulation, including:
— breadcrumbing
— weaponized incompetence
— gaslighting
— emotional offloading
handled directly.
from the male perspective.
without protecting ego.
stay close.
— author
