episode no. 9 | 11.01.2026

in this episode, author walks through the week inside cuffed—what moved, what landed, and what’s coming next.

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housekeeping

• two musings are being vaulted this week
– m.42 the safety she calculates
– m.43 the power of the bubble bath

both are free to read now. once vaulted, they require a premium subscription.

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social media recap

• threads remains the primary platform
• approaching 1,000 followers
• all top-performing posts this week were text-only

top posts discussed:

1. he kept explaining his intentions. she kept experiencing his behavior.

2. most relationships don’t end in anger. they end in emotional exhaustion.

3. she wasn’t guarded. she was observant.

4. she didn’t need more words. she needed fewer disappearances.

5. clarity feels boring to people addicted to uncertainty.

themes explored:
consistency, emotional presence, reliability, avoidance, + the cost of uncertainty.

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musings discussed

• m.65 — the unicorn problem
challenging the myth that one person can meet every intellectual + emotional need.
a quiet but important piece.

• m.66 — nobody warned me i’d like my kids
a reflection on fatherhood, modeling, + realizing what wasn’t normalized growing up.
less about kids. more about legacy.

• wireframe for m.66 (premium)

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what’s coming next

• m.67
about mistaking missing a person for missing who you were when you knew them—and why chasing that feeling is a step backward.

• m.68 — emotional self-abandonment
a deep dive into male avoidance:
why men shut down, disappear, + detach.
where it comes from.
why it’s not their fault—but fixing it is their responsibility.

this one is personal. and overdue.

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closing

thank you for listening.
stay close.

— author