you thought it was chemistry.
it was positioning.
when he pulls up a third chair, you stop being chosen and start competing. musing 76 dismantles triangulation — the illusion of “competition” that keeps you performing for access.
Woof: “if i could keep you focused on ‘winning’ me, you would never notice that i wasn’t worth the prize.” Damn. I’m so glad you moved out of this and into something far more self-possessed and inherently valuable.
Also — thanks for being here and sharing your journey.
Woof: “if i could keep you focused on ‘winning’ me, you would never notice that i wasn’t worth the prize.” Damn. I’m so glad you moved out of this and into something far more self-possessed and inherently valuable.
Also — thanks for being here and sharing your journey.
that line cost me something to write.
i didn’t move out of it because i became “better.”
i moved out of it because i got tired of needing witnesses to feel valuable.
thank you for seeing that shift.
— author