the anatomy of trust | red room no. 6

how prostate health becomes a lesson in surrender, connection, and shared awareness.

if you read musing no. 38, you already know this started as a question about men’s health and how fear shapes what we allow ourselves to feel. most men hear about the prostate only when it becomes a medical problem. in truth, regular stimulation—manual or device-assisted—is an old-world wellness practice used to keep circulation strong, reduce inflammation, and support hormonal balance. it’s maintenance, not taboo.

the first time i took it seriously was because of a woman.

she was ukrainian—direct, analytical, and unafraid of truth. when she loved, she studied. she noticed how much tension i carried, how i’d mastered control but not release. “you train everything but trust,” she said.

she booked us a couples’ massage in miami. what began as relaxation became anatomy in real time. the therapist explained how the prostate responds to pressure and why most men never experience that kind of release unless they’re injured or examined. it wasn’t sexual; it was physiological. yet when the body relaxes, awareness sharpens. i also learned the prostate can be stimulated WITHOUT penetration (more below)!