I think looking for the potential in people is an extremely slippery slope. Not only you're building hope on some vague information; but in another twisted way: the potential we sometimes "see" is nothing else than our own projections. The results of our own stories. And - a lot of times - that's a sure way for later disappointment. Because people have another reality than ours - and their link to our reality doesn't automatically mean they're gonna conform to ours.
When we wish something really bad: the brain connects everything that it perceives as "hard facts" to our deep beliefs. It doesn't discriminate between events or people. And while "delulu is the solulu" lots of times: when we wish some people to behave a specific way to make "our dreams come true" I think we're kinda negate their own free will.
I'm letting me and other people be. And whatever they do, I am navigating among the results so that I achieve what I want.
I think looking for the potential in people is an extremely slippery slope. Not only you're building hope on some vague information; but in another twisted way: the potential we sometimes "see" is nothing else than our own projections. The results of our own stories. And - a lot of times - that's a sure way for later disappointment. Because people have another reality than ours - and their link to our reality doesn't automatically mean they're gonna conform to ours.
When we wish something really bad: the brain connects everything that it perceives as "hard facts" to our deep beliefs. It doesn't discriminate between events or people. And while "delulu is the solulu" lots of times: when we wish some people to behave a specific way to make "our dreams come true" I think we're kinda negate their own free will.
I'm letting me and other people be. And whatever they do, I am navigating among the results so that I achieve what I want.
Thank you for the reading! 💜
the projection point is the one most people miss.
it's not that you saw something false in them.
it's that what you saw was real —
in you.
and that's the harder thing to sit with.
— author