welcome to cuffed

Raw thoughts on sex, class, masculinity, and survival.

I’ve been cuffed in every sense of the word—by the system, by a marriage that died years ago, by the pressure to provide, to hold it all together, to shut up and take it. This space is me taking the cuffs off.

Cuffed is a blog and podcast for people who’ve lived through some shit.

For men who feel lost but can’t afford to look weak.

For women who want to understand the men they love—or leave them.

For anyone who’s had to rebuild after life knocked the wind out of them.

Here, I talk about class, sex, fatherhood, betrayal, masculinity, ego, and survival—all of it unfiltered. Musings come out a few times a week. Podcast episodes go deeper.

Why I’m Pseudonymous

You won’t find my real name on this blog—for a few reasons.

First, I’m not writing this to go viral or play to the algorithm. I’m writing this so I can be fully honest—about my divorce, my failures, my flaws, my sex life, my kids, my pain, my past. I want to say things most men are afraid to say out loud. I want to help people without censoring myself for fear of who might be watching.

Second, I’ve lived a complicated life. I’ve been a provider, a husband, a father of three, a founder, and a convicted felon. I’ve made money. I’ve lost it. I’ve hurt people. I’ve rebuilt from rock bottom. And the truth is—sometimes people only see the labels. So I’m removing the labels and letting the words speak for themselves.

Call it pseudonymous. Call it masked. Call it what you want. But what you’ll read here is more honest than anything most people publish under their real names.

This is not self-help. It’s self-respect.

This is not for the algorithm. It’s for the real ones.

This isn’t therapy. This is the truth.

If you’re tired of pretending, you’re not alone.

I’m not here to build a persona. I’m here to tell the truth.

Welcome to Cuffed.

🟣 The podcast is coming soon. Subscribe now to hear it first.

👉 Ready for more? Start here or get right into musing #1: cringe at the class line.