It feels like this dynamic of Author-Reader is like you building the structure with hard facts + honesty & me bringing the scapel and throwing some diamond-like glitter in the comments ✨️
Like a research team of human abyss. Kinda poetic 😌
Second double cup of black coffee. Agust D on the background. Your Honor, this slaps. Let's get into it.
Women are more prone to become breadcrumbing victims than men: our nature is to get something and improve it in quality (mostly) and in quantity sometimes. I'm thinking about a woman transforming a house to Home.
This works by us investing our energy and resources in general into multiplying the positive. In the breadcrumbing scheme: this reflects as in the increased positive feelings of appreciation to the things offered through intermittent reinforcement. In one way, a woman is in danger of becoming an emotional addict so fast and so ...irrevocably invested. Scary.
Furthermore, I'm thinking of how men and women are invested differently in a relationship. He's more intense in the very beginning. She's more invested as time passes. I think this makes the breadcrumbing happening later in the relationship much harder to be observed and got out of from - for a woman. If the man breadcrumbs in the very beginning - chances are her dignity actually extracts her from there before huge damage is being done.
Dangerous insight: personal view
Patriarchy reinforces the deep belief of women asking for too much. We see it how apparently independent women "attract" "high value" men.
While this is a flat blatant lie through omission - I see how a real woman gets into a healthy relationship with a man through emotional, intellectual, physical and spiritual bonding. Not through the independent projection. A man's best friend is independent and these two don't ...get intimate. You know what I mean.
P.S.
Looking forward to the Trust Arc.
PPS
What a ride this arc has been, really. Thanks for reading - as always.
One more thing:
It feels like this dynamic of Author-Reader is like you building the structure with hard facts + honesty & me bringing the scapel and throwing some diamond-like glitter in the comments ✨️
Like a research team of human abyss. Kinda poetic 😌
the structure matters more than the glitter.
most people can feel something.
very few can name it cleanly enough for others to see it too.
that’s the work.
what you’re doing in the comments though —
that’s how people realize they’re not alone in it.
— author
On Starvation and Breadcrumbing
Second double cup of black coffee. Agust D on the background. Your Honor, this slaps. Let's get into it.
Women are more prone to become breadcrumbing victims than men: our nature is to get something and improve it in quality (mostly) and in quantity sometimes. I'm thinking about a woman transforming a house to Home.
This works by us investing our energy and resources in general into multiplying the positive. In the breadcrumbing scheme: this reflects as in the increased positive feelings of appreciation to the things offered through intermittent reinforcement. In one way, a woman is in danger of becoming an emotional addict so fast and so ...irrevocably invested. Scary.
Furthermore, I'm thinking of how men and women are invested differently in a relationship. He's more intense in the very beginning. She's more invested as time passes. I think this makes the breadcrumbing happening later in the relationship much harder to be observed and got out of from - for a woman. If the man breadcrumbs in the very beginning - chances are her dignity actually extracts her from there before huge damage is being done.
Dangerous insight: personal view
Patriarchy reinforces the deep belief of women asking for too much. We see it how apparently independent women "attract" "high value" men.
While this is a flat blatant lie through omission - I see how a real woman gets into a healthy relationship with a man through emotional, intellectual, physical and spiritual bonding. Not through the independent projection. A man's best friend is independent and these two don't ...get intimate. You know what I mean.
P.S.
Looking forward to the Trust Arc.
PPS
What a ride this arc has been, really. Thanks for reading - as always.
Staying close,
EuLa.
you’re right about the mechanism.
where it gets dangerous is when awareness turns into explanation instead of exit.
it’s not that women are more prone.
it’s that the ones who care deeply
stay longer trying to fix what was never meant to grow.
that’s where the damage compounds.
— author
Ah. Right. The ones who care deeply. Forgot not everyone does that by default.