for most men, a bath feels too soft. too feminine. too slow.
but when you share it with the right woman, it becomes something else entirely —
a ritual of trust, stillness, and emotional nakedness.
(m.73 — now live for paid subscribers)
Atmospheric in the extreme! I can hear the hot water running somewhere now.
Your EEU ladies have if figured out, and you describe it well: "part self-care, part ritual." Bonus: there's evidence supporting the engagement of the parasympathetic nervous system when immersed in warm water, be it the bathtub or a jetted, deeper hot tub, all of which plays very well with other relaxed physical states. I love it when intuition and lived experience gets a prop from data.
That was exactly right, totally, across the board. Bravo, really.
I’m struck again and again by your posts: that this kind of transparency is … what’s catnip to human women? It’s like dancing: most women love it and want to do more of it, it’s literally foreplay in public, but most men stand around looking disgruntled and disinterested. They don’t want to take classes; they don’t want to lead.
So women make do and take their gay friends out on the dance floor.
Utterly squandered all around, these wasted chances to stand close, lay close, be close, in the tub, on the dance floor, across the dinner table. And so few men see it!
Atmospheric in the extreme! I can hear the hot water running somewhere now.
Your EEU ladies have if figured out, and you describe it well: "part self-care, part ritual." Bonus: there's evidence supporting the engagement of the parasympathetic nervous system when immersed in warm water, be it the bathtub or a jetted, deeper hot tub, all of which plays very well with other relaxed physical states. I love it when intuition and lived experience gets a prop from data.
taking this as a huge compliment.
i wanted the piece to feel cinematic across the board.
you clearly felt the humid air in your lungs.
— author
💯
That was exactly right, totally, across the board. Bravo, really.
I’m struck again and again by your posts: that this kind of transparency is … what’s catnip to human women? It’s like dancing: most women love it and want to do more of it, it’s literally foreplay in public, but most men stand around looking disgruntled and disinterested. They don’t want to take classes; they don’t want to lead.
So women make do and take their gay friends out on the dance floor.
Utterly squandered all around, these wasted chances to stand close, lay close, be close, in the tub, on the dance floor, across the dinner table. And so few men see it!
this might be unsurprising to you and most other cuffed women, but i love to dance.
— author
OF COURSE you do.