a psa to women: he’s not softer. he’s safer. learn the difference. | musing no. 4

he’s not flashy. he’s focused.

Jun 10, 2025

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A woman in a black slip dress sits on a bed, her face turned away from the camera and reflected faintly in a dimly lit mirror. The atmosphere is moody and contemplative, symbolizing emotional distance and misperception. Visual for cuffed musing no. 4: a PSA to women — “he’s not softer. he’s safer. learn the difference.”

You may think you want the guy with the flashy car, the designer logos, and the curated social media life (aka “little dick energy.)” You may even think you’re winning when he takes you to expensive …

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