As a person who is guilty of having the tendency to offer high intensity (but doesn't have necessarily any problem with consistency) : it was an interesting process to analyse where does this tendency come from.
Result?
A mix of momentary happiness, excitement and overall some very intense high feelings. This is the surface. Beneath that stems fear of not losing what looks so perfect.
And then- when the initial perfect becomes "not so perfect" - enthusiasm drops and it's replaced with absence or coveted slight repulsion.
When things are real : I found out that even with the initial love bombing tendencies - in time I just become the best version of myself to show up to the other and it happens in the most effortless way possible.
Oh dear I missed commenting whole novels in your posts 🤭
As a person who is guilty of having the tendency to offer high intensity (but doesn't have necessarily any problem with consistency) : it was an interesting process to analyse where does this tendency come from.
Result?
A mix of momentary happiness, excitement and overall some very intense high feelings. This is the surface. Beneath that stems fear of not losing what looks so perfect.
And then- when the initial perfect becomes "not so perfect" - enthusiasm drops and it's replaced with absence or coveted slight repulsion.
When things are real : I found out that even with the initial love bombing tendencies - in time I just become the best version of myself to show up to the other and it happens in the most effortless way possible.
Oh dear I missed commenting whole novels in your posts 🤭
this is the comment i needed to read.
the self-awareness to sit with it —
not as accusation but as inquiry —
that's the work most people avoid.
"the best version of myself in the most effortless way"
is what real shows up as.
glad you're back.
— author